Do:
- Be respectful and polite in all communication, both online and while in sessions.
- Speak up! Communication is a huge part of getting full enjoyment from a session.
- Don't be shy or embarrassed to bring something up during negotiations. I'm very open minded, even if I tell you no.
- Disclose any medical conditions and allergies during negotiations. This is both for your safety and my liability. I will never reject someone based on medical conditions, this is purely so that I know to work around them during sessions.
- This goes for mental health as well. If you're prone to panic attacks it would be good to know before I have you shackled to a bed.
- Be sober. This goes for both alcohol and drugs. If I suspect you are drunk or high I will leave. This is a safety issue on multiple levels.
- Bathe prior to sessions. Be in clean clothing, even if you will be stripping for a session.
- B.O. and skid marks are not sexy.
- Use Google. If you still have questions after Google then read all pages on this site. If you still have questions after that you may ask me.
- Have your tribute readily accessible when you answer the door. I will not tolerate "misplaced wallet" as an excuse - it wastes my time and it wastes your time.
- Always use your safeword if something hurts in bad ways during a session, even if it's just a leg cramp or you don't like getting spanked as hard as you thought. We can adjust and move on.
- Going to the ER is only fun if you're role playing.
- The same goes for hurt feelings.
- Relax and enjoy yourself. Some nerves are to be expected when meeting someone or doing something you're not used to. The nerves will fade as you get used to me and the activities in question.
- Email me or comment here afterwards and let me know if you enjoyed the session. I always look to improve myself and I can't do that without feedback.
Do Not:
- Negotiate my rates or ask for a free session. Doing so is insulting as it implies my time and skills are not valuable. To the contrary it means you are not worth my time.
- Send nude pictures. After I'm done laughing at you I will block your email address.
- Ask me to provide services that are illegal or that I have already stated I will not do. Doing so will result in me blocking your email address and/or leaving the session.
- Ask for sex or sexual contact. "No sexual contact" is not code for anything. In asking for it you are asking me to violate the law. See above regarding illegal activities.
- Ask for activities during your session that are radically different from what was negotiated. Don't be a lolita pony in a prison interrogation scene.
- Waste my time. Don't get me wrong, if you want to pay me to sit and chat with you I'm all for it. I'm speaking more for flaking out or violating my policies.
Cancellation Policy
If you need to cancel or reschedule an appointment I expect no less than 24 hours notice. Due to the amount of time it takes to pre-negotiate and set up a session it is almost impossible to find someone to fill the vacant spot if you do not give advanced notice.
Tribute Requirements
Tribute will be due at the beginning of, or prior to, the session. Typically you will pay in cash. I will not accept gift cards, money orders, or personal checks (I can't believe I have to specify this). Either I will run it out to my car before returning for the session or my accompanying friend will take the payment with them when they leave.
You may also pay session fees with GiftRocket though they apply additional fees. Email payment to astrid.amell@hotmail.com. You may use this as a means of showing appreciation with gifts. To avoid problems with GiftRocket, include a note such as "Congratulations" or "Great job!" - it is primarily intended to send and receive gifts, not payments.
I also accept payments through Circle Pay (send payment to mistressastridamell@gmail.com), including bitcoin. Email me if you want to use bitcoin.
If your tribute is anything but cash I will expect it to be in my account prior to our session - it could take 1-7 days depending on which service you go with. This is a more attractive option for established clients.
You may also pay session fees with GiftRocket though they apply additional fees. Email payment to astrid.amell@hotmail.com. You may use this as a means of showing appreciation with gifts. To avoid problems with GiftRocket, include a note such as "Congratulations" or "Great job!" - it is primarily intended to send and receive gifts, not payments.
I also accept payments through Circle Pay (send payment to mistressastridamell@gmail.com), including bitcoin. Email me if you want to use bitcoin.
If your tribute is anything but cash I will expect it to be in my account prior to our session - it could take 1-7 days depending on which service you go with. This is a more attractive option for established clients.
Hygiene, Safety, and Props
I will have a friend with me at the beginning of our initial kinky session. During this time you may be required to show your ID to verify that you are at least 18 years old. They will leave after verifying that there are no issues. If you would like them to stay and participate in the session an extra fee of $100 /hr will apply. If you might be interested in a double dom/domme session from the start include that in your application.
No cologne or perfume please as I do have allergies. In return I will offer you the same respect.
No cologne or perfume please as I do have allergies. In return I will offer you the same respect.
Any location where we meet must also have a basic standard of cleanliness. If we are meeting at your home I do not expect Martha Stewart, but I do expect that the play area be clean and clutter free for safety's sake. I would rather not be distracted wondering what the weird smell is while I'm supposed to be concentrated on flogging you.
If you want one other person present for safety you must arrange so with me prior to the session and there is to be the understanding that they are not participating in any way, shape, or form. If another person is present at the location without my prior knowledge or an approved person attempts to participate/is disruptive (tip: jerking off in a corner is disruptive) I will leave the session. The same goes for any photography or video recording devices that I have not approved - in this case I will also require proof that any photos or footage have been deleted before I leave.
You will provide props to be used on you, especially objects that may be in contact with bodily fluids. I have a small variety of objects that can be sanitized and used on request, a list of which can be found on my interests page.
If you want one other person present for safety you must arrange so with me prior to the session and there is to be the understanding that they are not participating in any way, shape, or form. If another person is present at the location without my prior knowledge or an approved person attempts to participate/is disruptive (tip: jerking off in a corner is disruptive) I will leave the session. The same goes for any photography or video recording devices that I have not approved - in this case I will also require proof that any photos or footage have been deleted before I leave.
You will provide props to be used on you, especially objects that may be in contact with bodily fluids. I have a small variety of objects that can be sanitized and used on request, a list of which can be found on my interests page.
Aftercare
After each session there will be 15 -30 minutes dedicated to aftercare. This involves applying first aid to any marks or wounds, cuddling, chocolate, hydration, and discussing the scene. Depending on the time limit for the session in question you should be prepared to have a friend check in on you as I may not be able to stay. If you have an allergy, dislike chocolate, or are diabetic let me know of a different snack you like.
